My Wife is a pain in the Ass!

Dear Hilda,
My wife is a pain in the ass! When we got married we agreed to open a joint account and also that none of us could withdraw from the account without the permission of the other person. My Mother has been ill for sometime now. I’ve exhausted my personal savings and told my wife, so that I can take from the joint account to pay my Mothers hospital bills. My wife says she will not agree, because I have siblings who can pay the bills.All my siblings are abroad and say they cant send money immediately. I don’t want my Mother to die. What can I do about this wicked Mother of mine? I’m tired!
Angry Husband, Lagos.

Dear Angry Husband,
its a rarity these days for a couple to operate a joint account. You have done nothing wrong in doing so. I would advise that you sit your Wife down once more, and explain in detail why your siblings cannot send money for now. If she is still adamant, look for someone she trusts and respects in her family, to intervene in the matter. Your Mother’s health and life is paramount. If she still unyielding,then you may have to review having a joint account.
Take care

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