A Problem With Self Sex

I’ve been wanking since I was in Junior School. Whenever I’m alone in my room, my mind gets filled with thoughts of wanking but I can’t fight it. I have been for deliverance in my church many times and I’m too ashamed to go again. I think it got worse in church because after seeing all those ladies moving their behind up and down, it used to make me hard. Once I got home, I’ll do it again.

I’ve tried having sex many times with girlfriends but it’s not the same pleasure I get. I kept having problems with them because even when they undress I’m not really hard. Most times, they’d get angry with me that I don’t find them sexy.

Now I’m married. I thought the problem would stop but it is rather worse than before. When I finish making love to my wife, I’ll wait till she sleeps then I’ll go and do it in the toilet.

Is it bad if I do it after making love with my wife? How can I stop?

Dave, Enugu

 

Dave,

You are facing a very common problem with men. The body hormones and all have a way of wanting to control our sexual orientation. Nature designed your manhood the shape it did, so that you’d get the pleasure from a female and not from your hands. You’ve done it for so long that your system is used to it. It’s an addiction you should try to break.

I suggest you tell your wife about it. I hope she will be supportive. An extra pair of eyes will help to wean you off it gradually. Number 2 is to see your Doctor who may suggest some professional help. Number 3; if towards evening you are idle, get involved in physical activity like sports to wear you out, make love to your wife and sleep. Try as much as possible to keep your mind busy!

All the best!

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