You’ve been failing to understand At no point in time were you ever in control I sought you, I formed you, I nurtu…


It took me about 10 years to get with the program and accept her death was permanent It took me another 10 years to be a…

Open your Mouth

Whaaaaan… Whannnn the baby screams….! Its Mother is not moved as her Ankara aladire Iro and Buba is slightly rolled up a…

Fela, Be Fela

We may not all have loved Fela’s lifestyle. It may be just his music we love. There’s a lot he talked about in his music…

And The Winner is…

As the car drove past there were many drawn faces by The roadside, withdrawn, tired faces hanging on to a thread of hope…


I envision Hilda’s Shoulder to be a relationship park-a place you go to learn, vent and share. I have another understanding of the word relationship -I don’t think it is for people dating only. A marriage is a relationship too, and one which needs great rela- tions in the SHIP called home!
Hilda’s Shoulder is a place where we virtually hold hands like - real friends should. If you want to come anonymously...we understand ..still come! Hilda’s shoulder is here for you!


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