6 Thoughts That Can Ruin Your Relationship

  1. Your partner never gets it right by your standards.
  2. Your man/woman is the reason why the relationship doesn’t seem to be getting better.
  3. You suspect your partner doesn’t really love you and is in the relationship for a benefit or advantage.
  4. You keep asking yourself what good qualities you saw in your partner that made you fall in Love with them.
  5. You feel that your partner should know you well enough by now to do things you approve of.
  6. You always over-generalise that “he’s just like all them other guys I’ve dated”.

If these are your thoughts, you may be creating a toxic relationship for your partner.

If it’s not broken, don’t fix it.

If the relationship isn’t doing it for you, be honest, own up and move on or out!


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